5 Advice For Dating Someone In A Different Culture.
- Have common interests: Before finding out each others difference, there was a reason why both had an interest to date. Explore on the common interests together as a couple. You can also try new things together that both of you haven’t tried, or one has tried and would like to introduce it into the relationship. It’s nice because there will be something that both of you can conversate over.
- Be confident: As simple as it can get. I am really sure that if you are brought up in a household with strict parents, bringing in a man or a woman who is from a different ethnicity will not be accepted. This is totally understandable because parents’ mentality is set in back-home values, wherever that is. However, they were brought up, taught certain values and reached goals in the way they want to teach us. But it’ll be quite difficult since you’re growing up in a country where there are all kinds of colored men and women around. Whether it is our parents, friends, aunts, uncle, grandparents, they will say things to break the relationship apart. But needing to be confident in the relationship is key. Understand each another, talk to each other about running into family problems and fight for the relationship. Bring them to family events, talk about them proudly to family members, bring them to the house for one-on-one conversations. At the end of the day, parents are only come out of love, but reassurance that the relationship will work is important.
- Respect each others difference: There will be a lot of variation showcasing throughout the relationship. Whether it is religion, values, beliefs, culture, food, lifestyle, it will eventually all come out. But don’t be shocked of how and why they do certain things or thinks that way. This is how they were brought up and believed their entire life. Respecting their difference and learning from it is how a couple grows. Instead, understand why certain things are done in another way, said differently, celebrated on this day, or how things are done. There will be a culture shock. Many are infused with the same beliefs. Communicate with each other about it and be knowledgeable. This doesn’t mean people live the life they are living. Be in their shoes and understand every little thing about them.
- Not caring about other people’s opinions: This is a quite difficult tip to follow, because I was one to follow this. Every single person in ones life will have an opinion, even a stranger on the bus staring down at you hard, will have an opinion about your relationship. When growing up in a family-oriented environment, respecting peoples’ opinions, values and decision is taught. But, when happiness is bloomed in the relationship, your significant other is treating you right and loves your family, then sometimes it just needs to go one ear and out the other. The people around might not understand how good of a person they are until its seen. Family members will define stereotypes, giving a list of disadvantages of the relationship and worse case scenario, maybe stop talking to you. If it does come to it, talk to them about it, tell them where you stand. This is the effort it takes to make them understand that we are happy and want to be in this relationship. Everyone will have an opinion about the relationship but do what feels right.
- Open communication: We can’t stress how important this is. Both need to have an open communication about everything. Discussions about any issues that may need to be addressed because of each others difference. This will
allow both to be open-minded and accept one another. A huge consideration couples need to understand is language barrier when going to a family function. It’s a given for aunties and uncles to speak in their language, but it is also thoughtful if our significant other translates to each other what they are talking about. When our partners translates each other, we’ll feel part of the family, and maybe chime into the conversation.
For those of you who are in a similar situation, do you have anything that has helped above? Or have any of your own? Comment below or send an email. Lets Talk!
Recharging Our Mind And Soul.
Why is it important to recharge our body?
- Gives space for self-discovery
- Improves our concentration
- Helps us unwind
- Allows time for deep-thinking
- Improves on our relationships
- Value Individuality
- Reconcile with ourselves
- Enhances performance
In society, it is looked down to be in touch of our negative side or to be solitary, but it is vital. We constantly get caught up with everyone’s plan, lacking attention to our mental state. It is okay to say no, because we can’t be use to everyone when we are mentally drained. Sure, live the best life. In order for us to enjoy company, our minds need to be at peace. We help other people rise to the top or help with their problems when, we’re still unsatisfied with ourselves. It’s important to put ourselves first before anyone’s happiness happiness. Constantly doing things for other people can become a negativity on our mental state. When we are constantly surrounded by individuals who love to go out often and spend money, that same mindset will incorporate into ours. So, it’s vital to rejuvenate our body to understand who we are. When we give our time and attention away to people we tend to lose our individuality. This doesn’t only apply to work life but with our relationships, with people, also.
We often see couples constantly glued together. It is very precious to observe the beautiful couple be madly in love. But, that can add a stress to the relationship when there is no space given to one another. Remember, as a couple, we are still our own individual self. Remind each other to do an activity that doesn’t require both involvement. This will help the couple step away and rejuvenate, benefiting their love to a different level. Our soul should be carefree before we surround happiness with friends and family. Our mind will express crazy headaches, body aches and pains that won’t go away, which are indications for us to slow down and breathe. Acknowledge those feelings and take action right away. Take action that doesn’t involve the community. Even if it is 10 minutes out of the day. Be present within those 10 minutes. This means no distractions of any sort. This allows us to reconnect and be happier for a long run. During recovery, the mind declutters, being able to see life more clearly.
Here are some Tips & tricks
- Dedicate one day of the week for a few hours for an activity of our choice.
- Be firm in passing up plans with family and friends.
- Reward the body with some delicious treats that isn’t often eaten.
- Put on soul soothing music on blast. Hearing music that makes us feel comfortable and relaxing will put us in a great mood.
- Set time for a bubble bath and a glass of wine. Nothing beats with a tub filled of aromatic, candles and flowers.